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Nov. 10th, 2003 | 01:50 am

Just drank a bottle of wine with my next-younger brother. He's not happy. Not happy with his life. Raising a kid is nothing special, and he's in tremendous debt, lousy job with lousy people. He seems to be somewhat Republican or something as well.

His wife looks exactly like my mom. Creeps me out.

I don't know what to tell him. "Most people wouldn't survive what you've been through recently", he said. I guess that felt like validation.

Ah well. Wish there were people here to ask me hard questions because this is my first official drunken LJ post. weeeeee.

My goddamn ex-wife can go fck herself.

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from: ainanna
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 12:00 am (UTC)
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honey, i hear ya. preach on! get happy :)

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from: triple_entendre
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 04:55 am (UTC)
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Thanks. I see too many people who've forgotten how. Thankfully, most of my friends (ex-wife included) are in no danger of that. :)

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Triple Entendre

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from: triple_entendre
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 04:51 am (UTC)
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Venting is good and all, but I'm deleting your comment because that's waay too much. Thanks for your support though.

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from: prema
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 05:14 am (UTC)
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bummer read this too late. you've escaped my probing questions!

what have you been through? it's a bit of an odd question and you don't have to answer, but we're wondering. (or i am :)

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Triple Entendre

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from: triple_entendre
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 10:01 am (UTC)
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depression, unemployment, homelessness, bankruptcy, divorce.

I've left out some detail here, but you get the idea.

(My love life has also been kind of weird, but he wasn't referring to that.)

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dr. pangloss

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from: denshi
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 06:00 pm (UTC)
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The 'dog' line with the cops *was* pretty funny.

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Triple Entendre

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from: triple_entendre
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 12:14 pm (UTC)
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I'll let you tell that story, if you like.

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The Mad, The Bad, And The Dangerous To Know...

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from: slobberpuppy
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 06:57 am (UTC)
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We're all accountable for our own happiness. It amazes me how many people fail to realize this. It also amazes me how so many folks go about "living the life they should, collecting the trappings that society says should make us happy" and never think that maybe what it takes for them to be truly happy has nothing to do with convention.

I also understand that fear and security play into this quite a bit, but if you're not happy, then what kind of security is that?

My happiness has nothing to do with the 2.3 kids, white picket fence, steady-job-with-benefits package. I just live it so I'm as happy as I can be every day.

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from: denshi
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 06:01 pm (UTC)
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How'd you get the .3 kid? Did he/she come that way, or is it after-market?

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The Mad, The Bad, And The Dangerous To Know...

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from: slobberpuppy
date: Nov. 13th, 2003 09:45 am (UTC)
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Heh. It's a statistic silly!

I really don't feel the "need to breed" so don't hold yer breath for me to go having kittens now, y'hear? ;-P

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from: anonymous
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 07:39 am (UTC)
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that is the first unmitigated angry stmt i've ever heard you make. usually all negativity must be heavily prefaced. i am impressed.

-a. zzzyandotie

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Chef Monkey

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from: chefmonkey
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 09:22 am (UTC)
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    His wife looks exactly like my mom. Creeps me out.

I've said as much before, IIRC. It's eerie. And, here's food for thought: I can pretty much remember what your mom looked like when she was your brother's wife's age.

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Bean

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from: fulguritus
date: Nov. 10th, 2003 02:37 pm (UTC)
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wow.

i wonder if colin feels that way toward me.

probably.

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all my ex's

from: webnesto
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 01:01 am (UTC)
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I think we're doomed and destined to either feel this way or be felt this way about (or both... most likely both) in any profound split (especially one involving legal arrangments). Even when/if you're working at being friends, the death of a relationship is just that: a death. And all the stages of dealing with death apply. Anger is certainly one of them.

And just like with death, you'll cycle through them more than once most likely. Though, in my experience, the intensity is reduced as time goes on. And the apparent focus of the feelings I'm going through changes with time.

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Bean

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from: fulguritus
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 12:51 pm (UTC)
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yeah, since he was the one being left, and the one who feels he was left for someone else, it's going to take time for that anger to go away.
even tho i left because the relationship just wasn't giving me what i needed, there's still that horrible rejection. on both sides.
he feels rejected by me.
and i miss him so much as a friend.
it's just fucking hard. no matter how it goes about.
and takes time. and letting those feelings come out. (in the most constructive way possible hopefully)

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from: triple_entendre
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 01:01 pm (UTC)
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It is sad, but:

To make myself available for friendship with someone who was once my life partner, but now is not, feels like being used. Especially when the cause of "death" is that the other was not getting what she needed.

I have to laugh again at how universal these things are. (Repetition is funny).

All is full of love. Truly.

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Bean

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from: fulguritus
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 01:50 pm (UTC)
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well, it's really quite amazing how similar our circumstances are. i mean you and i could probably do some serious scary therapy together just talking. and we'd probably make eachother mad too. :)
i do wish colin had continued with his livejournal tho, but he got on here basically as a last ditch attempt to connect to me. so once i was gone i guess there didn't seem to be much in it for him.
i don't really understand what you mean by feeling like you are being used tho. i want to connect to and with colin because i miss our friendship. we had a great friendship, and we work well as friends, but we just didn't give eachother what we either of us, needed as a couple.
and we were friends first. i know it'll take time.
but the love in me is still so much there for him.
it's all just hard. so freaking hard.

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