A big part of my spirituality is Hedonism. Hedonism is the pursuit of pleasure as an ethical principle. I think it is a necessary component. Call it joy, or peace, whatever. At its best it is a creative and intense way to translate love into action as a way of living.
I accepted the (astonishingly liberal) Catholic Church I was born into when its youth group retreats showed me it was possible to receive unconditional love from your peers, even (or especially) at that age when life tries to tear us to bits.
Now I am a member of First Unitarian Universalist Church of Austin, which takes that search you describe, that wondering and feeling odd, as the whole point; a principle of questioning things and being real, as something around which to organize a very inclusive and traditionally liberal religious community.
Right now the UU Association is working on finding a way to acknowledge polyamorous relationships and recognize them as family structures. It'll be interesting to see how that works out.