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May. 7th, 2010 | 01:43 pm
mood: busybusy

Something I said in a private conversation today and thought I'd share:

> Maybe we should talk some in person about what it means to "deflect"
> questions. I think it's a necessary part of good communication, and it's
> often *more* honest to deflect a question (or to say nothing). This idea
> hinges on the shared goals of yourself and the person doing the asking.
> (trivial hypothetical example: a friend of yours has conversational
> derails/loops they get stuck in based on personal obsessions. Your
> shared goal is a brief, friendly chat about some subject. Guess what you
> need to do several times during that interaction? It's not dishonest, it
> is a kindness.)

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from: papertygre
date: May. 7th, 2010 08:40 pm (UTC)


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