> Maybe we should talk some in person about what it means to "deflect"
> questions. I think it's a necessary part of good communication, and it's
> often *more* honest to deflect a question (or to say nothing). This idea
> hinges on the shared goals of yourself and the person doing the asking.
> (trivial hypothetical example: a friend of yours has conversational
> derails/loops they get stuck in based on personal obsessions. Your
> shared goal is a brief, friendly chat about some subject. Guess what you
> need to do several times during that interaction? It's not dishonest, it
> is a kindness.)