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Mar. 8th, 2005 | 07:07 am
mood: bouncybouncy

A few days ago, I found myself making the claim that I am or have been "off the market". If you know what I mean. Which you don't, because of my fondness for lazy metaphor over details. I'm talking about romance.1

(Sorry about that, but that tendency is not likely to change. I get more Zen all the time.... It's why I'm still here; the Universe thinks I'm a good audience.)

Anyway, it's not quite accurate to say I'm "off the market". What would be accurate, I cannot say. Well, I mean to say, I can say accurate things, but not well. Well, I mean well; I mean, well.

Maybe the best I can do for now is answer direct, specific questions. So ask me ask me ask me, if you're curious. Right here in this journal entry if you like.

-Trip

1. And quality time of any sort, really.

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Eposia

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from: eposia
date: Mar. 8th, 2005 02:57 pm (UTC)
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Is your lack of market availability something you wish to change, or something with which you're displeased?

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Triple Entendre

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from: triple_entendre
date: Mar. 9th, 2005 10:51 am (UTC)
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I'm flirting. With all of you.

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Bean

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from: fulguritus
date: Mar. 25th, 2005 10:21 pm (UTC)
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i'm flirting with you!

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dr. pangloss

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from: denshi
date: Mar. 8th, 2005 05:02 pm (UTC)
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That depends on how many licks it takes to jump to hyperspace.

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Vixen

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from: vixengrrl
date: Mar. 9th, 2005 03:22 am (UTC)
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hee hee.

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Triple Entendre

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from: triple_entendre
date: Mar. 9th, 2005 01:39 pm (UTC)
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That depends on how many licks it takes to jump to hyperspace

made the Kessel Run in less than 12 parsecs... She's fast enough for you, old man.

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YES WE CAN HAS!

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from: aaangyl
date: Mar. 8th, 2005 03:29 pm (UTC)
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I call it "allergic to drama" rather than "off the market". And I must secretly confess that it bugs the crap out of me when my coupled friends make comments like, "man, you need a girlfriend or a boyfriend or something" and/or try to hook me up "for my own good" when I really just need sleep & chocolate.

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krystiegoddess

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from: krystiegoddess
date: Mar. 8th, 2005 03:42 pm (UTC)
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I like "allergic to drama." I may adopt that. :)

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Triple Entendre

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from: triple_entendre
date: Mar. 10th, 2005 11:52 am (UTC)
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In my case I think these are separate concepts.

I've been drama-free (except for my own internals) for over two years now! And it feels wonderful. It may be unfair (or worse), but my approach has been to pretty much ignore any of my friends who have any hint of drama about them, regardless of source. It's like, the details matter not at all -- I don't care what happened -- if you got in a fight with a skunk, you're sleeping outside.

But I've also been asocial, and I'd like to change that. As I've said before: I need witnesses. (singing) Can I get a witnesssss? And, I miss cuddling.


But you're right about the sleep & chocolate. Rock on!


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NobodobodoN

bouncy

from: nobodobodon
date: Mar. 8th, 2005 04:45 pm (UTC)
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Hooray for bouncy.

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Triple Entendre

Re: bouncy

from: triple_entendre
date: Mar. 10th, 2005 12:35 pm (UTC)
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  /\/\
  \/\/
 \(^_^)/ Hooray!
  *( )
  O O

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Bean

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from: fulguritus
date: Mar. 8th, 2005 06:05 pm (UTC)
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can i still come visit sometime?

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Triple Entendre

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from: triple_entendre
date: Mar. 10th, 2005 12:36 pm (UTC)
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Yes!

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Bean

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from: fulguritus
date: Mar. 11th, 2005 03:53 am (UTC)
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okay, see you soon then...when, i'm not sure. but in our wavey world of unreality mixed into reality, anything could happen. maybe i'll take a magic bus to your communal love den that's full of communists anarchists and socialists. we'll start the red revolution by wearing red three times a week. you choose which days.

then we'll weave hammocks out of candle wicks, light the ends for ambiance and catch fish with it for dinner. then laying in it we can eat our dinner by candle light. and invite 12 people.

i think my mate has worn off and the sleepy weirds have kicked in...i'm hugging you in my head RIGHT NOW!

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Heather the Great

no question, just a comment

from: heatherthegreat
date: Mar. 9th, 2005 07:50 am (UTC)
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I think your neuroses are charming. And when I said that you could join S. and I, I was thinking about pjs, stuffed animals, and cuddling. S. likes to make things more complicated than they are. However, I still couldn't help blushing.

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Triple Entendre

Re: no question, just a comment

from: triple_entendre
date: Mar. 9th, 2005 10:48 am (UTC)
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No one's used the word "neuroses" in my direction before, so I looked it up. I don't think I qualify, but I like the Jungian angle on it.

"One shouldn't get rid of it, but experience it fully and see what it teaches, what's its purpose. We don't cure it; it cures us. A neurosis is just an extreme of a normal event. He also saw in neurosis a substitute for authentic suffering and, at bottom, a moral conflict involving a split of opposites needing reconciliation in the "third thing" (tertium comparationis) or reconciling symbol."



PJs, stuffed animals, and cuddling are terribly and wonderfully romantic, to my way of thinking. ;) What suprised me was a sort of blank spot in my own headspace where I would expect to find something more familiar. I welcome those sorts of moments of insight into where I'm at, and I only mentioned it here in my LJ because it's something I'm working on or looking at.

Hugs,
Trip

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Heather the Great

Re: no question, just a comment

from: heatherthegreat
date: Mar. 9th, 2005 07:10 pm (UTC)
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I'll watch my words more carefully before I use them. I think what I meant was something more like an affectation or a person who requires some things to be or happen in certain ways. Hmm... I can't recall what to call that!


PJs, stuffed animals, and cuddling are terribly and wonderfully romantic, to my way of thinking.

I'm glad you agree and the invitation is open. :)

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Minister of Free Inquiry

reclaiming neuroses

from: aethyrflux
date: Mar. 10th, 2005 12:08 am (UTC)
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One of my favorite (somewhat inaccurate) mnemonics is that a "neurotic" displays their "insanity" internally, while a "psychotic" displays their "insanity" externally.... But i think people often use the word "neuroses" colloquially to refer to particular unexplained complexities in another person's character... Perhaps somewhat similar to the way that heatherthegreat mentioned that "... S. likes to make things more complicated than they are. ..." Please pardon my any of my lame attempts at flirtation to cover up my shy embarrassment for my complete inability to hide my naughty thoughts... Next time, i'll make sure it's clear that i am the butt of the joke.

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Heather the Great

Re: reclaiming neuroses

from: heatherthegreat
date: Mar. 10th, 2005 12:55 am (UTC)
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i find your neuroses charming as well... why do you think i'm still hangin around you? i'm such a geek hag. ;)

love you piggy...

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Triple Entendre

Re: reclaiming neuroses

from: triple_entendre
date: Mar. 10th, 2005 12:40 pm (UTC)
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Please pardon my

No pardons or clarity needed, I'm just thinking aloud about my own inner landscape. :)

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heatherness

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from: kukiri
date: Mar. 13th, 2005 08:52 pm (UTC)
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I can say accurate things, but not well. Well, I mean well; I mean, well

Yay. I can relate to this sentence. And my question is: What are some of your most favorite moments to share with other beings?

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Triple Entendre

momentOS: the freshmaker operating system

from: triple_entendre
date: Mar. 14th, 2005 02:12 am (UTC)
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I can say accurate things, but not well. Well, I mean well; I mean, well

Yay. I can relate to this sentence.

That sentence is pretty out-there; I'm sure it is astonished but welcomes the company!

And my question is: What are some of your most favorite moments to share with other beings?

What a wonderful question. In the process of answering it, I realized I could write a book. It might be fun to expand upon each of these. Here's a first sketch:

some of my most favorite moments to share with other beings


shared intention, of all sorts.

there should be something in here about love. it's all love, right?

the inappropriate giddiness of sleep deprivation.

unguarded truths: mental sparring where you intentionally let your guard down because you need to let something hit you.

sleeping. next to.

hugs that last an extra second or three.

teh sex0rz. It's true, empaths do have more fun.

compersion taken to its logical extreme: finding your S.O. a date, etc. (this could be an entire list itself)

adopt-a-geek: I come over to your house and ignore you while I work on a project.

reverse adopt-a-geek: You come over to my house and ignore me while you work on a project.

geek quality time: Hanging out inside each other's personal space (bedroom or secret laboratory), working on personal projects but keeping an eye on the other person's progress. No deadlines, no plans, but mutual witnessing. "Hey, look at this!" Event-driven conversations that start and stop freely. Sort of a superset of Pair Programming. Pair Geeking? Sublime, purest hedonism. I have a girl buddy I can do this with for days at a time.

quiet walks through places of impossibly stunning natural beauty: a redwood forest, mountains, exotic gardens

DJ-ing impromptu dance parties

Saying the Simplest Thing That Could Possibly Work (often by Induced Cognitive Dissonance)


Rereading this list, it reminds me of that "Sunscreen" song. I never wear sunscreen.

-Trip

P.S. - Thank you for phrasing your question "some of". This made it possible to answer.

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heatherness

Re: momentOS: the freshmaker operating system

from: kukiri
date: Mar. 14th, 2005 02:35 am (UTC)
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Right. On. What a lovely list. I'm down with these things, and actually asked the question to get some quality ideas to percolate in my head. I can be *such* an introvert, and parties just don't do it for me. I like entering low pressure spaces where I have enough time and negative space to acclimate to a single someone.

As an aside I've been looking for a two person game where there's enough room to get a good sense of the personality and feel of the opponent (rather than being mostly occupied with the rules/details of gameplay). Know of any?

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Triple Entendre

Re: momentOS: the freshmaker operating system

from: triple_entendre
date: Mar. 14th, 2005 06:21 am (UTC)
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Maybe we should plan a geek playdate. :)

As an aside I've been looking for a two person game where there's enough room to get a good sense of the personality and feel of the opponent (rather than being mostly occupied with the rules/details of gameplay). Know of any?

It's hard to get this kind of effect with fewer than 4 players. The only answer I have for this one is that two people can achieve this by playing a game they are both very familiar with and very skilled at.

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heatherness

Re: momentOS: the freshmaker operating system

from: kukiri
date: Mar. 20th, 2005 04:19 pm (UTC)
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Geek Play Date. Sounds good to me! Except for the actual planning part. I feel the need to be completely random about it.

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