?

Log in

No account? Create an account

about the okcupid match scores

« previous entry | next entry »
Apr. 4th, 2005 | 09:13 am

The OKCupid match scores are about much you and someone else are each what the other is looking for, not how "similar" you are! So when you use the "compare" function on your _own_ profile, thus generating a "match percentage", that score reflects how similar your "ideal match" would be to yourself! It should not be 100% unless you are looking for someone exactly like you, which may or may not be advisable in the first place!

I match myself 95%, which I think is a little high. I suspect I have been too equivocal in my answers, and need to go back and increase the importance of some of the questions that I care the most about.

The "QkCupid! FAAAQ!" covers this in a way that's worth reading:

... When we look at how each of your answers satisfied the other's preferences, we'll use these values to give our calculations the correct weight. Your match percentage with b is figured by answering the following two questions:

(1) How much did b's answers make you happy? You indicated that b's answer to the first question was very important to you. And that his answer to the second question was not. So we placed 50 importance points on the first question and 1 point on the second question. Of those 51 possible points, b earned 50 by answering the first question how you wanted. So b's answers were 50/51 = 98% satisfactory.

(2) How much did your answers make b happy? Well, b placed 1 importance point on your answer to the first question and 10 on your answer to the second. Of those 11, you earned 10 points. So your answers were 10/11 = 91% satisfactory.

To get a match percentage for you and b, we just multiply your satisfactions, and then take the square root: sqrt(91% * 98%) = 94%. This is a mathematical expression of how happy you'd be with each other...if these ... questions were the only things that mattered in a relationship! ...


And finally:

Q. Is there incentive for me to lie?

A. Definitely not. You could increase your average match score by picking answers that you think the average person wants to hear, but your matches just won't like you as much. Look at it this way: Ok matching is really about us sorting all the people by how well you'd like each other. By answering honestly, you'll find people who really like you best for who you are. Cheesy, but true.

For example, if you you don't work out at the gym and are honest about it, the people you'll match with just won't mind.

Interestingly, I believe that this advice applies to real life even more strongly than it does here!

Link | Leave a comment | Share

Comments {2}

Darlig Ulv Stranden

(no subject)

from: she_flies
date: Apr. 4th, 2005 03:36 pm (UTC)
Link

I sometimes feel like I mark everything as mandatory :) But, then, I'm passionate about stuff. On a personal note on what qualities one is really looking for....

When I met my first husband we clicked on all the things that I thought were important (politics, humor, likes, etc). But, over time, though we still had great conversations, our marriage disentegrated rapidly and messily. Ultimately, we were both passive-agressive people who made a lot of poor decisions in response to a nasty situation.

My current husband is someone I would NOT have picked given a writeup on him. We had very few things in common - our relationship started off as purely sexual. But, we both communicate well with each other and genuinely want to be there for each other. Both of us have changed a lot just knowing the other person and that depth of relationship is what makes this marriage SO MUCH better than my first. Ultimately, I guess I have learned that the attributes I thought were paramount for a relationship to work were nearly as important has true honesty and caring. I actually see that relfected in the way I am answering the okcupid questions. Though I am not looking for my perfect mate on okcupid because I've already got him :)

This quiz was posted by my friend outotoro and it is close to what you are talking about:

Your dating personality profile:

Liberal - Politics matters to you, and you aren't afraid to share your left-leaning views. You would never be caught voting for a conservative candidate.
Big-Hearted - You are a kind and caring person. Your warmth is inviting, and your heart is a wellspring of love.
Practical - You are a down-to-earth individual who is not impressed with material excess. You care about the stuff of like that really matters.
Your date match profile:

Athletic - You aren't looking for a couch potato. You seek someone who is active and who keeps his body in top shape.
Big-Hearted - You want someone compassionate, someone gentle and kind. A loving, nurturing person will fill that hole in your life.
Liberal - You need a person who has liberal opinions and beliefs. You are engaged by political discussions and would find a liberal viewpoint refreshing in a date.
Your Top Ten Traits

1. Liberal
2. Big-Hearted
3. Practical
4. Outgoing
5. Wealthy/Ambitious
6. Funny
7. Sensual
8. Athletic
9. Intellectual
10. Adventurous
Your Top Ten Match Traits

1. Athletic
2. Big-Hearted
3. Liberal
4. Intellectual
5. Practical
6. Traditional
7. Stylish
8. Wealthy/Ambitious
9. Adventurous
10. Funny

Take the Dating Personality Quiz - Get Dating Advice

Anyway - that was a long round about way of saying "I know what you are saying" - but it is still fun to think you might have a doppleganger out there :)

Reply | Thread

cattnip

My problem with all these things

from: cattnip
date: Apr. 5th, 2005 03:02 am (UTC)
Link

is that they are based on a person knowing what they want in another person. Or more to the point, what they find attractive in another person.

If I had to list qualities that I want in a significant other, I would probably list a lot of qualities that I have and think are good. When I compare this list to past boyfriends, they didn't have a lot of those qualities. In fact, they tended to have the opposite qualities.

I guess it's the difference between knowing what you want vs knowing what you need.
I want someone like me so I understand them. I need someone different so that they can balance me and help me appreciate the things I wouldn't normally.

Reply | Thread